Monthly Archives: February 2012

Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: The Blame Game

Does your mate hear even minor feedback as if it’s an attack? And respond by going on the full out attack of you? Does he block your efforts to discuss relationship problems by blame shifting? Do you walk away not … Continue reading

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Recovery Fortune Cookies: Take the Risk

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin Thanks to S Dr. Janice Caudill, founder and Clinical Director of McKinney Counseling & Recovery, … Continue reading

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Create Your Own Serenity Room: Transforming Yourself Through Self-Care

  You may be at a time of particular pain in your life; a time you think of as your monsoon season. Your typical freeze response doesn’t numb you out. Denial is no longer strong enough to anesthetize the pain. None of your old familiar self-medicating behaviors … Continue reading

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Partners of Sex Addicts: Rebuilding Trust

The recovering sex addicts I counsel  often ask what their partners need to rebuild trust in the wake of sexual betrayal. My initial answer is pretty obvious: TRUTH, in combination with  fidelity, respect, and an end to manipulation. She needs … Continue reading

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Partners of Sex Addicts: Not Knowing

 The number one trauma trigger I hear about from partners of sex addicts is not knowing – not knowing what the truth is, not knowing how far his behavior has progressed, not knowing what to trust about his recovery, not knowing … Continue reading

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If My Husband is Intimacy Anorexic, What Am I?

If your husband is intimacy anorexic, then you are suffering Intimacy Deprivation. You may have known for some time that something is not quite right in your relationship and that it is affecting you. But putting the puzzle together to … Continue reading

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Love Avoidant Strategies in Intimacy Anorexia: Feeling Lock Down

Hard to remember the last time your mate voluntarily shared feelings with you? Or genuinely seemed to care about yours? Pay an emotional price after sharing your feelings or seem like you’re not really allowed to have them to begin … Continue reading

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What Valentine’s Card do You Pick for Your Sexually Addicted Spouse?

  Flowers. Candy. Chocolate. Romance. Silly love songs. Cards. Lots of cards. Cards with hearts. Cards with words of love. Cards of adoration. Cards of “my one and only” and promises of forever. But if your relationship has been shattered … Continue reading

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Partners of Sex Addicts: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma Triggers

See Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Trauma Triggers for Partners of Sex Addicts for further discussion of betrayal trauma. As a wife or partner of a sex addict or intimacy anorexic, you can expect to spend a significant chunk of your recovery … Continue reading

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Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Trauma Triggers for Partners of Sex Addicts

Although all addictions cause painful consequences to the addict’s spouse, a sex addiction hurts a wife or partner in a way no other addiction can. You may intellectually know that his sexually addicted behavior is not about you, but it … Continue reading

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